Saturday, August 3, 2019

Missing Barb

18 days, 5 hours and 12 minutes. That is how long is has been since I dropped Barb off at the airport in Rapid City South Dakota on July 17th. Man, I miss her! 13 hours 38 minutes, that is how long it is until I pick up her at the airport in Thunder Bay Ontario!
Sunrise at Pasha

Our Pasha Lake home
Week one I kept myself busy fishing with my friend Bob and his crew, week 2 has been a lot slower. It is just not the same up here without her. While Bob was here I ate well, breakfast, lunch and dinner. But when he left I found myself wandering the camp aimlessly with the dogs and a plate going from cabin to cabin begging for food; “Please sir do you have any food to spare?” At first they were more than happy, I got enough food to feed not only myself but the dogs as well. But as the week went on fewer and fewer doors opened as I walked by. I would knock and could hear hushed whispers inside but most would not answer. There were a few that must have felt sorry for the dogs and opened their doors but even they gave out after a few days.

By the end of the week I was walking around with my plate, cold and hungry. My hair was disheveled, my shirt was on inside out and backwards and I only had one sock remaining which was flopping around only half way on. Thinking back, maybe my fly was down, but then again I was so despondent, I don’t remember if I even put pants on at all half of the days.  

Even the diehards who had fed us all week long had stopped opening their doors. Instead they would throw stale buns and other scraps at us as we walked by. Between me and the dogs there was a mad scramble for the scraps. Dakota, being so timid was easy to scare off. But Daisy was another story. She and I got in a stare down more than once after a stale piece of bread was thrown on the ground between us. Growling with teeth gnarled I was able to scare her off most of the time but twice the look in her eyes had me backing down for my own safety. Man, I miss Barb!

I went out fishing once with a couple we met up here 4 years ago. Mark and Deb hail from Winsor Ontario and have been come up here 4 of the last 5 years with their two boys. Now 21 and 19, the boys have jobs and other commitments and could not come up this year so Mark and Deb decided to book two weeks up here instead of one! We had touched base throughout the year and were looking forward to fishing with them. Unfortunately Barb did not make it back in time to see them. We went to Northwind, another one of our favorite lakes. 11 miles long, about a mile and a half wide in its widest spot. And deep, we are talking over 100’ deep in some spots where trophy walleye, northern and lake trout lurk in the depths.
That is one long lake!
It was dark and overcast but the rain held off. We were targeting walleyes that day and started out at a spot called “The Tourist Trap” and for good reason…… everybody fishes there. But it was changeover day at the resorts in the area. Outgoing guests leaving, incoming guests have not arrived yet so we had the entire lake to ourselves all day!
Mark piloting the boat to the hot spots!
We caught lots of fish, if I was to guess… probably 30ish each with the biggest one being Mark’s 25”’er.
Mark and Deb waiting for a lunker
Mark with his 25
We enjoyed a shore lunch on one of the islands and called it a day after 6 hours as I needed to get back and let the dogs out. All in all a great day and for once I could fish without worrying about Barb out fishing me!
They even fed me shore lunch!
A loon looking for a meal
The rest of the week I just not feel like going out fishing. Just not the same without Barb. Man, I miss her.

Instead I read books, played with the dogs in the water and went out in the bush and played with Chad’s new Kubota clearing trails to the bear stands. I love being out in the woods!
Daisy and Dakota on one of out ATV rides

The girls, enjoying a day at the beach

The brush clearing machine!
This grouse refused to give up the road
Tuesday night is Fish Fry night here at the resort. Yet another opportunity for a meal! Everyone brings fish and a dish to pass (I brought a beer but did not pass it). Chad and Michelle fry up the fish and french fries. It is our favorite day of the week here!
Chad frying up some fresh walleye!

What an awesome team!

Fish, fries, cupcakes and beer, what else does one need?!

Mark and Deb eating some Northwind walleye!

Solving world problems around the fire

Michelle finally gets to sit down and eat
"Please sir, may I have a scrap? I will even eat watermelon!"
I of course called Barb everyday but she was so busy that the only time she could talk was at night and with the 3 hour time difference I had to call her at 10 or 11pm to get any quality time with her. Man, I miss her. She has had a very hard couple of weeks. Besides the emotions of losing a loved one she was executor of her stepmothers estate. Taking care of all the financial obligations, arranging the service, listing the house as well as selling a vehicle and remaining assets. Barb being Barb got it all done but not without overwhelming hardship. The hardest thing was telling her stepsister and kids that they had to sell the house. Apparently they had been told that they would be able to keep it and live there once the estate is settled. Unfortunately the bank had another opinion. One of the grandsons had been living in the house the past several years and he needed to find a new place to live. I cannot even imagine how difficult those 18 days were. We both learned a lot about setting up estates and making sure we have everything laid out as efficiently as possible. On her last day there Forrest drove down from Klamath Falls, helped her pack up a Uhaul with some of her dads possessions she wanted to keep and drove them back to Forrest's where he will store them for us. Today she hops on a flight that will take her from Medford Oregon to San Francisco to Toronto and finally to Thunder Bay. 13 hours, 7 minutes if everything goes smoothly.....fingers crossed, she has not had a lot of luck with the airlines recently.

Well, I better post this blog and get to cleaning the camper, only 11 hours and 53 minutes until I pick her up! Did I mention I miss her?!?!?!?

31 comments:

  1. Sounds like you have survived, just barely. Barb sure had her handsful. nice that she is back home again with you.
    Nothing like a good fish fry of Walleye.

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    1. We will have to get out on the lake Tuesday so we can catch some more and she can enjoy her first fish fry!

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  2. I’ll bet there is more truth than fiction in your description of camp over the past week. 😉

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  3. So you missed Barb did you. Dave sure would enjoy a walleye or two, everywhere here that says walleye is really Alaskan pollock...he gives them all a hard time about it. Only a few more hours to go, you can make it.

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    1. You just never know, this is the only way you know for sure you are eating walleye.

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  4. Very funny story. They say the truth is funnier than fiction. And from your story I believe it. That Kubota is what we need on our property. Happy Re-union.

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  5. When you are a team it is hard to adjust being alone.
    Fortunately your time was not as hectic as her's.
    Be Safe and Welcome back Barb. Enjoy!

    It's about time.

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    1. It gives me a whole new appreciation for military families who are apart for months and months.

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  6. I feel for Barb and the stress of having to deal with the estate having been there myself. Your description in camp had me in stitches! Pasha looks like a lot of fun...sure miss that kind of fishing.

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    1. We still hope for the day that we can get you guys up here and get out on some lakes!

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  7. Now that was funny! Fun read and way to know when to give in against Daisy haha. Super jealous of all the fresh walleye feeds and if I'm correct you're missing Barb a bit?!?! We hope she can relax and enjoy out-fishing you soon. Being the executor is a rough job physically and emotionally.

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    1. Emotionally draining is an understatement. She is just glad that the bulk of it is done and behind her.

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  8. Hard times for both of you. I hope you spoil her for a few days!

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    1. Oh, I plan to! I know she will be itching to get out on the lake!

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  9. Oh, Jim! Barb is a lucky girl to have someone so devoted and appreciative of all she does. I guess the old saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" seriously fits your situation. But then again maybe it was meal prep, laundry, and cleaning (not to mention "other activities)that you truly missed!! Haha! That fresh fish fry looks soooo wonderful!! Makes my mouth water! Enjoy having Barb home again. Thanks for the Dakota and Daisy photos!! Love seeing them!

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    1. Daisy and Dakota had not been in the blog for a while and they were starting to feel slighted!

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  10. I feel your love. How special. Being an executor is not fun at all. I hope that your reunion is extra special. Hugs to you all.

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  11. My thoughts go out to you both. To Barb. It is really difficult doing what you have to do and especially when there are so many other people involved. Enjoy your time back at Pasha. To Jim. It is hard when your partner is gone for so long. You realize how much they do to make your life easier, especially chores. lol Glad you survived.

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    1. She made it back and all is right with the world again!

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  12. I read this allowed so Kevin could hear. His comment was “you know that’s not true, Jim would never eat anything that touched the ground” xD . He made no such comments about the disheveled look or fly down...

    So happy that you’ll be reunited with your bride

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    1. So very true, he probably knows me better than anyone else!

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  13. It's a hard thing when your better half is gone! Thanks for the entertaining reading! I hope she made it back to you safe and sound!

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    1. She made it back and we have been on the water a few times already!

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  14. I am so glad you survived the hardship. I am not sure I would have done as well. The last time my wife left me, I spent the week stuck in the bathroom of our RV. The anguish of being alone can undo the strongest man.

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    1. Another couple of days and I would have been in the same place!

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  15. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, as they say. Guess you’ve experienced that for your self. Bill and I have done the divide and conquer and it ain’t easy. Please pass along our condolences again. I suspect she will need to grieve now that most of the “stuff” has been handled.

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    1. She did after everything is said and done, the emotions of everything hit her.

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  16. Here I am with an aching tooth, feeling sorry for myself and you made me laugh so hard I forgot about it.....for a while anyway. I thought I had problems!!
    Anyway, hope you guys are enjoying pasha.....finally together.
    Sorry to hear about the issues Barb has had. Hope a few good days of fishing will make here feel better.

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