Barb and I first became empty nesters in 2005, I was 43 when our youngest Forrest graduated high school and went to Arizona to continue his education. As many of you know, finding yourself alone with your spouse can be a shock to your system as you stare at each other in the deafening silence.
Our answer was to sell our house and move to a lake home starting a new chapter of our lives. Fast forward 20 years when Forrest, Somer and Lily stopped by for a visit. A 9-month visit! As one of our friends asked Barb, "You already carried him 9 months once, how does it feel to do it again?".
It was not bad at all. We got to do things with them that we would have never been able to. It had been 20+ years since Forrest and I had been able to hunt and fish together and we got to do both several times. While we have spent time with Somer a week or two at a time in the past, these past 9 months gave us the opportunity to really know her. And Lily, our 13-year-old granddaughter, it goes without saying that the time with her (and her with us) is something that neither of us will forget. I don't recall spending one night with my grandparents let alone months at a time!
I wanted to write about and show pictures of all the good times we had, but I could not have done it better than Somer did in this Instagram post. I hope this link works!
If I were to be totally honest though, while we are going to miss them, there is a certain peacefulness having it be just Barb and I (and the girls) again. Now our lives go back to "normal". While Forrest and Somer did help with a meal or two a week, Barb no longer has to plan and groceries for 5. Yes, life will be different, we are going to miss them yet are happy for them as they carry on with their RV lifestyle adventure and wonder where they will end up next.
They spent their last few days here packing up. Boy, do they have a lot of stuff! Luckily, they have a toy hauler to fit all their toys.
Before they left, Forrest and I (and Kevin) got out on another adventure. It was one that we had been waiting months for and what we had been practicing for over the past several weeks. It was another archery shoot, this time at Terry Peak Ski Resort in Lead. Total Archery Challenge (TAC) is an organization that puts on shoots across the country. We had been to one in Salt Lake City (Snowbird) in the past and now this one. It is a challenging shoot where you ride the chairlift up to the top of the mountain and shoot various full size 3D targets on your way down. Here we are discussing our bet while riding up the lift...
As I said, Forrest and I had been practicing for weeks. Kevin, had every intention of doing the same, but life got in the way and pulled out his bow the morning of the shoot having never fired an arrow. Wanting to make it interesting Forrest and I bet $1/point with a total of 264 points on the line. For example if I shot a bullseye (12) points and Forrest missed entirely, I would be $12 up. We would total up our score at the end and the loser would have to pay up. We tried getting Kevin to go in on it as it would have been easy money, but having not practiced, he wanted nothing to do with this bet!
The ride up was fun and the camaraderie was even better. For the next several hours we laughed, ribbed each other, lost a few arrows, but overall had a great time.
When it was all said and done we sat down in the lounge at the lodge and added up our scores. For the second week in a row, Forrest and I tied! How is that even possible?!?!? To make matters worse that nonpracticing no good friend of mine beat us both by 8 points! The only redeeming aspect was that he opted out of the bet!
Now for the moment you have all been waiting for, it is photo real or is it Memorex? Remember that commercial? If you are over 60 you probably remember it. The photo below was taken with me standing in our living room with no fish in hand. Forrest then just told AI "Add world record walleye". While it did not add a world record walleye, it did add a pretty nice one. It also added the entire background and my hands holding the fish. In the original picture my hands were down by my side.
There were a few clues, the biggest being that the fish is "too plastic-y" as one person said. Another person said that the sky is just too perfect, while another said my teeth looked "bucky". The meanest of all was posted on our Facebook page where someone said it was obvious fake as I was too good looking!
You created a lot of memories with your granddaughter during those months. She will never forget those wonderful days and carry them in her heart forever.
ReplyDeleteShe will have memories with us that Barb and I never had with our grandparents. I hope she looks back on them fondly.
DeleteI know how bittersweet it must have been to watch them leave, Jim. I wonder what their next big adventure will be?
ReplyDeleteI was not at all sure about that fish! I thought it looked fake but I know so little about fish I wasn't sure. Good example of AI though.
They are actually heading your way after Oklahoma. Well, not all the way, but as far as Johnson City Tennessee.
Delete8 points! Your description made me laugh and so did the fish comments.
ReplyDeleteIt is good y’all had time together.
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I've seen Kevin three times since then and every time so far he been able to bring up the fact that he won into the conversation!
DeleteThings keep moving along there. Pretty soon there will be no land at all. Just building after building. I might think you are hoarders. Who ever said that you had never looked so good sounds like a smart fellow.
ReplyDeleteIf that fellow spends time reading our blog they cannot be that smart!
DeleteHere is my true AI story from just this week. I busted my 5 year old Kyocera Flip Phone, got another from Amazon. Ended up I could call out, get calls, make a text message, but NOT receive a message from anyone. Verizon graciously decided to send me a new phone EVEN THOUGH I bought it on Amazon. Should have arrived on Thursday, but it did not. Called the store I went to where they tried to fix it and ended up ordering a new one...but the call went to a call center. That guy turns me over to another division in Verizon, which came on the phone and said it was Verizon's AI, how can I help. Telling it that I could not receive text messages, it promptly said, "I just sent you a link, click it and they can help you...." OK Jim, AI is too stupid to realize that sending me a link, to a phone that won't receive text messages, is suppose to be my life saver! I hung up...luckily the phone was delivered to my sister's 30 minutes later, un-lucky for me, the new one did not work right either. Bottom line...it needed a new SIM card, a quick 10 minute fix...but AI didn't do CRAP for me!!! PS: Nice fish! LOL
ReplyDeleteThat is hilarious! Aren't you glad that we are old and don't have to live through this next generation when we have to speak to computers like they are human?
DeleteThat's a big fish! It's AI? lol Loved seeing the pictures. My daughter moved out when she was 17 to be on her own. It lasted for about 12 years and then she moved back in with us when her dad got sick so she could spend more time with him before he passed. She still lives with me now. I don't think she wants to leave me alone but I love having her here.
ReplyDeleteThat's awesome! Both of our kids have lived 10+ hours from us since graduation so it was nice having them around for a while.
DeleteWow! That rig of theirs is truly a home on wheels! Glad you had that special time with them. Priceless memories!!
ReplyDeleteSo it was AI. I am not surprised. Man! AI still creeps me out.
The garage is looking great. I do love the red.
I am totally unfamiliar with yucca plants. Not sure I even knew they bloom, but then most plants do some way or another--lol! Do they have a scent when they bloom?
I guess I don't know, I will have to go out and sniff one.
DeleteTheir rig is 43', one of the biggest out there!
Will look forward to hearing about their next adventures. The wind blows in Oklahoma too! :) I keep telling Mike we need to get started on that carport attached to our garage! Great progress you are making! I'm looking forward to seeing photos of the camper remodel.
ReplyDeleteBarb is getting very close to the big reveal! She has been working hard as we only have 9 days until our next adventure!
DeleteI knew it was A/I from the old postcard coloring. The siding looks great!
ReplyDeleteIt was pretty obvious once you really took a close look at it!
DeleteNice that you had the chance to spend time with the kids before they left. After they make memories of their own, they'll stop by to share them with you.
ReplyDeleteThe garage is starting to take shape.
Stay Safe and Enjoy!
It's about time.
Hopefully they do not wait too long before coming back!
DeleteThe garage looks great! Nine months is a long time to spend with family. Forrest, Somer and Lily will be missed for sure. But isn’t it a wonderful feeling to know that they are on an adventure and enjoying life? Dang it! I just knew that was a real catch!
ReplyDeleteYes, it is nice knowing that they are out there doing what they love to do. I wonder where they will end up next?!?!?
DeleteI was beginning to wonderful if all was ok in your area.
ReplyDeleteLovely memories having older children and grandchildren staying. Happened here many times, the longest 5 years.
The shed does look great that fish is a beauty.
5 years might be a bit long. Maybe when we get older and need some assistance, but then again, they probably would not want anything to do with that!
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DeleteWhat you say will most likely be true for some.
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ReplyDelete9 months is a long time, but I am sure you all created many new happy memories.
I wish your family safe and happy adventures. The garage and shed are looking great.
The yucca blooms are pretty! Take care, have a great day and happy week ahead.
We were gone for several months of that time so they had a good mix of time with us as well as time to themselves.
DeleteThat was a very long visit, but it seems to have gone well.
ReplyDeleteIt did go well. They had their routine and we had ours.
DeleteI have always been somewhat envious of people like you. I didn't get married until later on in life and thus at age 43, when your youngest was leaving the house, I had a nine year old and a three year old. I still have six more years before the last one leaves the house!
ReplyDeleteMy parents were similar to you in the fact that they had young children in their 40's. My dad was 38 when the youngest was born, making him well into his 50's when he graduated high school. Both have their pros and cons, but overall we are glad we did it the way we did.
DeleteJust back to finish up and re read your post. Sounds like good family time for those 9 months. I loved staying with my farmer grandparents-I pretty much lived there during the summers. Grandpa set me up on his old ford tractor to disc the fields.
ReplyDeleteYour barn is looking good-now is a good time to go ahead with the extension then it will be all done.
I know nothing about AI pretty soon no one will know what is real or not anymore-I don't care for that part. the funniest thing I saw on Facebook recently was the olympic cats diving that was better than the dogs haha
I tried the link for more photos but it is a private setting that has to be approved to see the photos.
Yes we really did get the 11 inches-more rain today and off and on this week-I guess when it finally rains it pours-smiles Happy 4th of july coming up
I was wondering if that was going to be the case when I linked to Somer's Instagram, oh well, it was worth a try.
DeleteI bet you have lots of memories spending summers with your grandparents, I hope Lily has lots of fond memories of staying here as well.
I’m sure the kids will cherish the memories made from the last 9 months with mom and dad. The dog video is hilarious! You can’t believe anything you see now with AI looking so real. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteI think they will. It is amazing how they can make videos looking like that seem so real. If you did not know any better you would think they are real.
DeleteYou two have WAY too much energy ... building the house, building the garage, adding to the garage ... Are these AI pictures too???
ReplyDeleteDo we though? We are absolutely whooped at the end of the day with more than our fair share of sighs and moans.
DeleteThat would be hilarious if a month from now I say that we weren't building a garage at all and it was all AI!
Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment! Reading your sidebar, it sounds like you've had some great adventures.
ReplyDeleteWe do have both work and play adventures on a regular basis. Hopefully we will have many for years to come!
DeleteI am continually in awe of all you do. And the garage s looking terrific. Boy, I don't know if I could handle nine months with either of our guys! Well done. But I'm sure there were very special ties, especially with Lily. AI -- not a fan, but you've got to admit, that's a fun photo!
ReplyDeleteI do some things each week while working on the garage that I do not know if I am able to do or able to do without getting hurt. Just a couple more sketchy tasks and we should be good to go.
DeleteI know Lily, Forrest and Somer will always remember the time/laughs/adventures they shared with you and Barb, but between their itchy feet and your quest for quiet time, it was probably time for moving on. I knew it was AI, and I too find AI creepy. Great progress on the garage and looking forward to joining you on your next adventure.
ReplyDeleteThey were ready to have their wheels rolling. The best times for me involved hunting and fishing with Barb and Forrest. Plus a couple of hikes that I will certainly never forget!
DeleteYour first few lines made me smile about being empty nesters. I had a lot of time on my home as hubs was still traveling, first when in the navy and then with his civilian job. I didn’t have him under my feet either until after retirement, and then our nephew moved in for six years and settled in the basement. Our son moved downstairs for a few years after nephew left, until he got his own apartment and then eventually married. It wasn’t long afterwards that hubs retired. I sent him down to the basement and yes, I’m only kidding. That’s a great photo of the four of you and I know all about the tears when saying goodbye, but how exciting for your family to be RV’ing. The trip you took with Forrest and Kevin sounded like a whole lot of fun. That’s a great AI photo of you. I think we have only touched the tip of the iceberg with this AI. I use it to illustrate a post here and there at times. I love the art aspect of it but then feel guilty because I know it encroaches on the real thing. Nothing will ever beat that though. Looking forward to Barb’s camper remodeling photos. Your garage is looking great and extension? Why not right? I look forward to a picture of your girls next time. I’m sure they understand how busy you have been. Before I forget that’s a beautiful yucca bloom. And apologies for the ramble. but I'm quitting here. Happy Month of July to you all!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the response! You have had several live-in experiences so I am sure you know all about it. I love the AI that you use in your posts, it is not meant to fool anyone it is put in there for additional context which is exactly what it should be used for. Keep it up!
DeleteI can't even imagine a 43' rig!!!
ReplyDeleteIt is a beast for sure. We have not had a rig that big in our driveway since we built the garage. We were not sure it was going to make it out, but it did with no problem at all.
Deleteanother great topic!! we are empty nesters, i'm not sure when they were both gone for good, but it's been a long while. i cried, the hubs danced but it did not take me long to get on board and enjoy so much time to myself. awesome picture of the 4 of you!! barb is remodeling the camper - do you guys ever do "nothing"??
ReplyDeleteNo, we rarely do nothing, it is just not in our DNA. Sometimes I wish it was. I do enjoy a cold or rainy day however as it gives me an excuse not to do anything but read or watch TV.
DeleteYour shop is coming along! May as well have an extension now especially if you have stuff to park under there! I bet you will miss the kids and especially Lilly. Empty nesting can be real empty sometimes but we all adapt. That Yucca has a very nice bloom!
ReplyDeleteWith all the hail we get around here we wanted someplace to park the enclosed trailer to hopefully protect it. Sadly, it is a couple of hailstorms too late!
DeleteI have not embraced AI yet.
ReplyDeleteWe are sad our grandies won't be coming this year for Gramma Camp. They grow up and get busy. The eldest is off to university. sigh.
I do not ever see myself embracing it, a reluctant participant perhaps? I tease Forrest that in 5 or so years, he too will be an empty nester. He is in denial saying that Lily is going to live with them for years to come.
DeleteWhen I was 43, we were just about finishing up preschool for our youngest, and signing the paperwork for enrolling him in Jr Kindergarten for the coming Fall. You and I seem to have scheduled the stages of our lives very differently, despite being about the same age
ReplyDeleteThere is no right or wrong way to do it. When you had children, I am guessing you were more settled financially which definitely has its benefits. When Jessica was young, we were definitely pinching pennies!
DeleteOn another note, I think of our mothers who were pregnant more often than when they were not. Not to mention watching and raising all those children. Crazy.
DeleteIt was probably "tough" to adjust to them moving back in for those 9 months, and then another emotional bump when they left. Or it would be for me. And you would never know that AI added that big walleye. It's cool but kind of scary too. And frustrating when my phone decides to put in the words I don't want. But the archery shoot looks fun. Have a super start to July, and I hope you do get some bees next year. It's so fascinating to learn about them- and to continue to learn about them.
ReplyDeleteI had a couple of hives back in the 90's, but then we learned that Forrest was allergic to them and one of them had to go. After a long debate, we decided to get rid of the bees instead of Forrest. Now that he is long gone, it might be time to get some more!
DeleteOk, I'm 62 and and Tim and I have never really felt like we have an empty nest as we have an open door house and the girls and our grandchildren come and go often. When I was a child I spent a lot of time at my maternal grandparents place I loved going their for a few nights or a couple of weeks.
ReplyDeleteOur kids moved far far away from us when they turned 18. What does that say about us?!?!? It was nice having them for an extended period though!
DeleteAha, I suspected that the fish catch wasn't actually real and soon enough we may see the tagline, Is it real or AI? Wow to that motorhome pulling away and sort of wondered why your family members stayed 9 months in one place, aside from the enjoyable family time and helping out with the various projects which you and Barb always seem to have going on. But it's also great to see that you do take time off to enjoy other activities...
ReplyDeleteTheir rig is massive isn't it?!?!? It is not exactly roughing it when you are traveling in that beast.
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